woman escapes from deadly husband

When some men fall in love, unreasonable and sugar coated promises pour out of the mouth to impress their girl friends.

Some paupers have deceived their girlfriends that they are not driving because the car is undergoing a little attention in a garage somewhere…maybe that they cannot buy them talk time because some defective ATM machine has ‘swallowed’ the visa card.

They do all this to ‘accumulate points’ so as to win women’s love and marry eventually.

Such men will pretend to be ‘perfecto’ ,caring and self sufficient by satisfy all their girl friends’ reasonable and unreasonable wishes.

Little do ladies know that the true colors only show up amidst storms of marriage. That is when women get disillusioned.

Some women have been extremely disappointed to discover that their husbands are in fact ‘serial lovers’ who have numerous girlfriends to deceive.

Unlucky women have found themselves in the hands of brutal wife batterers; men who are good at battering their wives but cower when fellow men ‘cough’.

Such cruelty is what a thirty three year old woman of Zambia Compound in Luanshya has endured for five years over what she described as flimsy reasons.


Tryness Nyeleti, who used her maiden name, recalled that her named husband’s frequent violence caused her a miscarriage after nine months of a pregnancy.

She said in an interview in Ndola that in one of the innumerable incidents she had gone to drink beer from a nearby bar where her husband battered her.

“When he arrived at home children told him where I was drinking beer. He dragged me out of the bar and violently slapped me in the face. When we reached home he deadly struck me with a piece of metal on the side,” she lamented.

The woman who had travelled with the author on the same bus from Luanshya to Ndola said after her husband had struck her with the piece of metal, she had a miscarriage a few hours later.

Nyeleti, Lamba, who has four children from her first marriage which had ended on tribal arguments with her Luvale first husband, said her current husband ,the second one, mostly beat her up whenever she suggested that the four children go to school.

She revealed that only the twelve year old Jane had gone up to Grade three at Kaloko Trust School in Masaiti the time the family lived in that vicinity.

Nyeleti said after the mysterious death of another baby she had with her second husband, the man frequently battered her because he suspected her relatives of bewitching the baby.

The woman remembered that the last assault happened on Sunday May 13 this year after she had gone to one prestigious township of Luanshya to wash clients’ clothes as piece work.

She recalled that after the laundry she bought some food which she cooked at home.

She narrated that the man who earned a living on piece work , accused her of spending the time she had been away, with a boy friend before assaulting her.

“He poured cold water into my face and knifed me on the forehead,” she lamented in Bemba while showing the reporter the harrowing cut on the forehead.

The woman who had six pieces of luggage said she had sneaked out of home to Twapya township in Ndola so that her deserted husband could realize his foolishness.

However, the woman said she would not report him to the police, saying leaving him alone forever was enough for him to repent of his wrongs.

She appealed to well wishers and some nongovernmental organizations to help her take care of her four children.

And her maternal grandfather, Emmanuel Zulu, who had paid K50,000 rent for the two room house for her in Twapya Compound said in an interview in Ndola that his niece had complained and wished to flee but had no transport money..

The sixty five year old man who accompanied the woman to Ndola said he provided transport money.

However ,a good Samaritans had to put one little girl on her lap and another one paid the bus fair for Jane and her young sister’s shared seat lest the uncompromising conductor should have refused them a ride from Luanshya to Ndola.

Gender based violence has claimed numerous lives in Zambia. People have died at the hands of their own spouses. Various stake holders still have plenty to do to reduce e vice.