Marriage Is Not The Ultimate In A Woman’s Life.
Getting married is the wish of every young girl, at least from my part of the world. Whether that is Europe where I grew up or Ghana where I originate from is a discussion for another day.
As an African, I know how important getting married is to the African lady and the family in general. Sometimes I wonder why, but in my experience, marriage has been made to seem like the ultimate in a woman’s life. Among most African communities, married women and men are more respected than the unmarried ones. They are seen as more responsible than the unmarried ones. Unfortunately, these misconceptions have generated a lot of desperados in our society. Many women are desperate and frustrated out there because they want a husband at all cost. After all who wants to be seen as irresponsible?
Due to these same misconceptions and a lot more, lucky girls (yes lucky girls because that is what they think they are) who have been able to cross over, put their marriages out there and shove it under the noses of their friends who are yet to be married. Especially when they get married the white way. I mean when they have a wedding. No wonder my grandmother who is 104 years old tells me “a wedding is the begging of madness”. But truth be told, I can’t blame these ladies at all.
To me this is because the gab our community has created between the married and unmarried is so big that, almost every available single girl speedily wants to cross over to the world of the married. And when they do they feel like they have reached the ultimate in life. So if marriage were to be the ultimate in anyone’s life, would men be running away from it while women go crazy about it? Have you ever wondered why? The men are even scared of getting married these days, because of how desperate and frustrated some women parade themselves about.
I believe in marriage and I respect the institution of marriage, because God created it. Yet I would like to use this opportunity to encourage and educate every single girl out there to go to school, work on a career and create a life for themselves and become that woman that every responsible man will dream to have as their wife. Rather than to sit down, wallow in self pity and cheaply chase men up and down just because others are married and you are not.
Marriage is important but certainly not the ultimate in a woman’s life. After all what is there after marriage?